Seek the 'I'
You dance to the tunes of your desires
Ask music connoisseurs. They will tell you that the sruti (fundamental note) never changes. Only the raagas (tunes) keep changing. There is a constant sruti controlling the music of your life. It is ‘I want happiness’.
You seek happiness through marriage, affection between spouses, progeny, children’s education, vehicle and house, wealth, and so on. You dance to the tunes of your desires.
If you would just care to reduce ‘I want happiness’, you will realize that you are the very ‘I’ you seek. And then you will realize that your quest is for this ‘I’, the innate peace within you, whereas desires land you in the vicious cycle of birth and rebirth.
If you are able to return love for hatred, compassionate understanding for envy, sacrifice for injury done, then you have become divine.